I psychoanalyze everything that happens to me and to other people that I am around.  I believe that you can draw accurate conclusions from past experiences, decisions that people make, and little details that people leave outside of their body.

 I have analyzed all of my friends, family members, and random people that I come into contact with.  I have always been right on the mark.  No, I don’t have E.S.P. but rather I listen and find the little pieces that matter.  I enjoy giving sound advice to all my friends.  I give non-biased advice on situations that I’ve personally experienced.

 I am offering a special free service to all of our readers.

 If you need advice on a particular situation please email me at jasonm@crestviewbulletin.com and include your situation and questions.  I will then post the question and my advice on my blog.

Here is an example of a recent situation that I was faced with from two close friends:

I am going to change the names to protect the innocent.  Frank and Sally have been married for three years and have a two year old son, Nick.  Frank and Sally are always arguing and they tend to air their “dirty laundry” in public.  Frank called me one day to vent about all the things that he couldn’t stand about Sally.  I listened and digested for a while.  Later that week I saw Sally in the gym and she gave me an ear full of Nick’s problems.  They were both considering getting a divorce.  I asked Frank if he minded that I met with the two of them to talk.  He agreed and I came over to give them some homework.  What I realized is that people tend to always say, “We argue all the time!”  The truth is that most people who argue a lot don’t argue about anything that truly matters.  They are quick to want to give up and walk away.  When I met with Frank and Sally I asked them if they wanted to work things out.  They both said, “yes BUT!” 

 Why is there always a BUT?

Frank and Sally were always focusing on what the other person did wrong without looking in the mirror and seeing what they did wrong too.  We can control our own actions but we can’t control the other party.  I gave both Frank and Sally a single sheet of paper with the numbers 1 through 5 numbered on it.  I asked Frank what he could personally do in the next month to make things better.  I then asked Sally what she could personally do in the next month to make the marriage better.  They both had one day to think about it and fill out the five items on the paper.  A day later they called and asked me to come by again.  Frank gave me his paper folded up.

 Here is what it read:

1.  Choose my battles

2.  Listen to Sally about her day at work

3.  Help Sally out with Nick more

4.  Make Friday date night

5.  Try to be more romantic

Sally then handed me her paper and here is it read:

1.  Stop trying to change Frank into a person he is not

2.  Don’t jump to conclusions before you know the entire story

3.  Work as a team on the family finances

4.  Stop verbally abusing Frank

5.  Love Frank unconditionally

I then tasked both Frank and Sally to work together on their personal 5 items.  I checked back in a month and they were talking more, fighting less, and spending romantic nights together on Fridays.  Frank and Sally are doing really good now.  They were able to work as a team to get over their arguing hump.  They are now better communicators and they look inside to change before expecting the other half to change.  I know that I didn’t solve their problems but I gave them a method to start the process.

 I look forward to helping you the best way I can.

 Remember, you will never have anything in life if you don’t work for it. 

Take care,

Jason

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